lollywit
Ragtag, fugitive fleeter
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Post by lollywit on Mar 1, 2005 10:17:59 GMT -5
Whilst I'm the last person to advise about thinking on the past and the pro's and con's about that state of mind...
Have you tried doing something bloody phenominal on said day to break the association? Look on it as "that's the day I first bungee jumped" (for example) or "that's the day I learnt something new"?
It's something friends and I came up with to get ourselves over a death in the group...
It takes time and some effort but one day you find that date no longer holds hideous bad karma.
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Post by CylonGod on Mar 1, 2005 11:07:04 GMT -5
Xenu you can pretend that Spider987 is dating her! That would keep me away from her. Bad taste not to mention spoiled meat. euyuck!  |
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Post by caseOrange on Mar 1, 2005 12:05:30 GMT -5
Unfortunately (or fortunately) all the break-ups i had were either really bad or mutually friendly. i can't say it was easier getting over the bad ones because it was such a clean break, but it was less difficult. i think it helps that she won't pick up the phone for you--keep that in mind and put it in perspective. In other words, you're more worried about it than she is, so why have only one side all bent out of shape while the other side doesn't care. And why be the side that's bent out of shape. Did she ever screw you over in some kind of way? No need to expound, and not meaning to dwell on the negative, but maybe it'll make you think, "Yeah, who needs that sh!t". On the positive side, you're still moving on. Try to think of all the things that you've done or projects that you've started since the break. This is obvious proof that your life is still progressing. My worst break-up came at 21. i thought it was the end of the world for a few years. Then one day, i decided i was expending way too much energy living for the memory of someone that wasn't giving anything back anymore. There's not enough room on this board to describe everything surrounding that break-up. Sorry if that was too brutal or personal, but i feel for you, man.  |
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lollywit
Ragtag, fugitive fleeter
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Post by lollywit on Mar 1, 2005 12:10:32 GMT -5
but i feel for you, man. Ditto |
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Post by Xenu on Mar 1, 2005 16:20:54 GMT -5
Well, lets just say it was a long time ago, and this is usually the only day that I let myself even think about it....I've got plenty of other days & dates associated with plenty of other bad realtionships. And its not even like this one shouldn't have gotten away...it was all for the best, trust me. Funny thing is, the ones that I probably should have hung onto...I can't even remember their birthdays (which is probably a big part of my problem to begin with). Truthfully, its been too long (I'm not even gonna say how long) for me to even entertain the thought...and its not like I ever should have entertained it in the first place....I guess this day's just become more of a catch-all reminder of all the ones I've screwed up rolled into one, and every year I expect to have some epiphany that will make me sit up & take stock of what's important in life & realize how I should do things differently in the future......but usually I'm just reminded that I'm a huge a$$ & even if somebody gave me a road map to the perfect relationship, I'd read it upside-down and go the opposite way. And don't even get me started on the one I actually should've married...that's a whole other story...  |
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Post by prism700 on Mar 1, 2005 17:57:46 GMT -5
..but usually I'm just reminded that I'm a huge a$$ & even if somebody gave me a road map to the perfect relationship, I'd read it upside-down and go the opposite way. And don't even get me started on the one I actually should've married...that's a whole other story... Hey Xenu your still a young guy - plenty of time for Mrs Right to come knockin on your door. Just gotta look ahead - an old cliche comes to mind - what's for you won't go by you. Best wishes |
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Post by ViperPilotMomma on Mar 7, 2005 17:51:14 GMT -5
If not, I've got a cat who's always dying for attention!
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Post by Blade Runner on Mar 7, 2005 17:55:07 GMT -5
I got an email form a woman in Russia today who wants to strike up a email relationship, she's not bad either ;D
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Post by ViperPilotMomma on Mar 7, 2005 18:12:08 GMT -5
Go, BR!
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Post by Blade Runner on Mar 7, 2005 19:51:50 GMT -5
 ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by ViperPilotMomma on Mar 7, 2005 21:38:45 GMT -5
She must mean business! She even sent a photo!
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Post by Xenu on Mar 8, 2005 3:54:48 GMT -5
 ;D ;D ;D ;D Hiyoooooooooooo!  |
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Post by ViperPilotMomma on Mar 8, 2005 7:48:43 GMT -5
Hiyoooooooooooo! Is that the picture you're using to pick up ladies on-line, Xenu?! That 'splains some stuff!  |
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Post by ladyrheena on Mar 8, 2005 8:19:54 GMT -5
Is that the picture you're using to pick up ladies on-line, Xenu?! That 'splains some stuff!  Sssh...you'll give away his secret... |
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Post by ViperPilotMomma on Mar 8, 2005 8:23:12 GMT -5
Oops! You're right! |
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